I’ve heard it, you’ve heard it, the guy who has been coma for 20 years most likely has heard it too, (dark humor… that was a little close to the edge even for me) but the point is we’ve all heard the saying a million times—“Nice guys finish last.” Sounds like a load of crap, right? Well, I’m here to break it down for you, because it’s actually a little more complicated than it sounds. So, pull up a chair and let’s dive into this, big bro style.
First off, let’s make something clear: I’m not gonna just give you some BS motivational speech about how you should change who you are. Nah, we’re not about that here. We’re gonna look at this from the other side of the coin, the side that most people don’t want to talk about.
The Truth About What Women Want
Here’s the deal: a lot of research shows that women don’t really prioritize what we think they do. They aren’t exactly swiping right on a guy just because he’s loyal, intelligent, and super kind. And honestly? That’s cool. They have their reasons, and it’s not some moral failure on anyone’s part. It’s just the way it is.
Let me paint a quick picture for you.
Imagine this: You’re deciding between two job offers. One job’s got a boss who’s chill, cares about your goals, supports you, and really takes time to make sure you’re growing. Sounds good, right? But here’s the catch—this job pays peanuts, no cool benefits, and the work-life balance is rough.
Now, job number two? Same gig, but this boss doesn’t give a crap about you—just uses you for what you can do. BUT they pay you three times as much, give you unlimited vacation, and all the perks you could dream of.
Which one are you gonna pick? Be real.
Most people would take that higher-paying, less personal gig. Why? Because at the end of the day, it’s about what you’re getting in return. The same goes for what women are looking for. They want the “compensation package” that suits them best—whether that’s looks, status, income, or adventure. Kindness and loyalty? Those are bonuses. Nice-to-haves. But they’re not at the top of the list.
So, Why Do “Nice Guys” End Up Frustrated?
Here’s where the frustration comes in. The “nice guy” types often feel like they’re getting passed over. They’ve got the loyalty, the intelligence, the kindness, but they’re not the ones catching the attention. It can sting, trust me, I get it. But here’s the kicker: Nice guys often can’t compete in the areas that matter most to women in the long run—looks, money, excitement, and lifestyle. So, what do they do? They start to feel like they’re losing, and that’s when they fall into this trap of “well, women just don’t care about the important stuff!”
But here’s the cold, hard truth: Women aren’t choosing guys based on who’s the nicest or who’s the smartest. They’re choosing the whole package deal—the guy who can offer them the life they’re looking for. If that guy happens to be loyal and smart, that’s a bonus, not the starting point.
Don’t Fight the System, Understand It
Now, I’m not here to tell you that being a nice guy won’t get you anywhere. That’s not what I’m saying at all. But understanding why women make the choices they do—without judgement—can actually help you make better decisions for yourself. If you’re focusing on the stuff that women value most, you’re more likely to get the results you’re hoping for.
It’s all about understanding the game, not trying to fight against it. Once you get that, you’re in a much better position to start winning.
So, what do you think, bro? Sound about right? Drop a comment if it hits home
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